Most of us have a complex relationship with feedback. We can’t deny that it’s necessary, but it’s also uncomfortable, isn’t it? However, I am here to tell you that feedback – even the kind that makes you squirm – can be one of the most significant tools to fuel personal growth and self-improvement. It’s time we shift your perspective from viewing feedback as negative criticism to seeing it as an opportunity for growth. Here’s why.
Point 1: Feedback As A Mirror
To begin with, feedback serves as a mirror, reflecting your strengths and weaknesses. It’s like that honest friend who’s not afraid to tell you when you have spinach stuck in your teeth. Remember when you gave your first presentation and felt like you did a pretty good job until a colleague mentioned that you were speaking too fast? That was feedback. It stung, but it also opened your eyes to an area for improvement. The result? You practiced, slowed down your speech, and nailed your next presentation.
Point 2: Feedback Spurs Growth
Secondly, feedback is the fuel that fires your personal and professional growth engines. It pushes us out of your comfort zones, encouraging you to reach new heights. Consider the story of an aspiring writer who received a string of rejection letters. Each one contained feedback, comments about character development, plot progression, etc. Instead of giving up, the writer took those comments to heart and worked on his craft. Today, he’s a bestselling author. His growth came from embracing the feedback, not from shunning it.
Point 3: Feedback Builds Relationships
Finally, feedback plays an instrumental role in strengthening relationships. How? Well, it promotes open dialogue and trust. When we express your thoughts and feelings, it shows that we value the other person’s perspective and are willing to make adjustments. It’s the mutual exchange of feedback that deepens your connections. Remember that time your friend mentioned how you were always late for meetups? It was uncomfortable, yes. But in acknowledging and addressing this, you showed respect for your friend’s time, which only strengthened your bond.
Now, I get it – not all feedback is useful, and it’s essential to consider the source. Some people might give feedback based on personal biases rather than objective assessment. Some people also say things that may be more of an insult or bullying. But then again, it might be true too. That’s where discernment comes into play. Learn to filter the gold from the grit.
I’ll leave you with this: feedback is not the enemy; it’s a tool, an ally, and a catalyst for growth. So, the next time you receive feedback, take a moment, breathe, and look beyond the initial discomfort. You might just find a roadmap to becoming a better version of yourself.
Embrace feedback. Let it stir you, shake you, and ultimately make you the best that you can be. After all, isn’t that what we’re all striving for? Remember, life is a continual learning process, and feedback is one of your greatest teachers.
Almost every “Professional Speaker” on the planet claims they’re number one in whatever topics they speak on. It’s not how many books you’ve written that matters, but rather what best practices you can transfer to the audience, based on a proven track record.
This is where Brian Parsley isn’t your ordinary presenter. He began his career selling door to door over 30 years ago. Since then he’s been a serial entrepreneur, building three highly successful organizations and selling two over the past two decades.
Brian is currently a managing partner in the global consulting firm, The Constance Group. His work has given him the opportunity to share his methodology and allowed him to use his gifts of teaching and speaking on an international platform on topics of sales optimization, building loyal customers, and leadership strategies that drive profits.
He teaches behavioral science around why people do what they do and how to manipulate challenging scenarios with good intent. His messages are powerful but filled with humor and stories so they resonate and can be recalled.
Fun fact, Brian has close to one million followers on TikTok doing fun pranks. He may be in his 50’s, but he’ll never lose his sense of humor.