Why Do You Put Things Off?

It’s easy to say that we’re too busy to do certain things, but the reality is that there’s something deeper going on when we procrastinate. Whether it’s starting a new project, finishing a task on our to-do list, or taking care of a personal errand, procrastination is something we’ve all struggled with at one point or another. So why do we do it? And more importantly, how can we overcome it?

Here are 3 strategies you can use to start motivated and stay motivated to do what must be done:

1. Understand your triggers

You must understand what the “triggers” are before you can address the issue. Is it a specific type of task? A task that requires a lot of time and energy? Or maybe it’s a task that you simply don’t enjoy doing. Once you understand your triggers, you can start to develop a plan for how to deal with them. If you find yourself overwhelmed and retreating to social media to anesthetize you from the pain of doing that “thing” remember it’s only a distraction from facing the real issue. Be honest with yourself when you unpack the real reasons.

2. Set smaller goals

When we’re facing a large, daunting task, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and push it off until later. One way to combat this is by breaking the task down into smaller, more manageable goals. By setting smaller goals, you’ll make progress on the overall task without getting overwhelmed—and you’ll start to feel better about yourself in the process.

It’s not even really about the goals. It’s about getting wins. Once you begin to create that success no matter how small, you build momentum. This is called the aggregation of marginal gains. It’s huge, but requires you to really focus on what you “can do” right now no matter how small it may seem.

3. Find an accountability partner

This is a tough one! On the one hand you want someone to motivate you, but you get embarrassed. They may judge you. You can thank your ego for that. So what must you do?

Have the top of mind awareness to put the emotions to the side. Look at your challenges as just that. Challenges. When you have someone that’s not emotionally involved and you also look at it that way too, you’ll have the best shot of consistency.

It’s one thing to tell yourself that you’re going to do something; it’s another thing entirely to have someone else holding you accountable for actually doing it. If you’re struggling to stay motivated, find someone who will help keep you on track—whether it’s a friend, family member, or even a professional coach. Having someone in your corner will make all the difference when it comes time to finally tackle that procrastinated task.

At the end of the day, you’re not alone. We all struggle with procrastination from time to time—but that doesn’t mean we have to give in to it. The worst thing you can do is put a label on yourself and say you always procrastinate or you work better under pressure by waiting. These may help you rationalize your situation, but you certainly won’t grow.

By understanding our triggers, setting smaller goals, and finding an accountability partner, we can overcome procrastination and get things done! But remember, we are not perfect nor should you try to be. If you catch yourself, then remind yourself what you can do to get out of the situation and back on track to achieve what you desire.

You’re Not a Procrastinator, You’re a perfectionist!

Have you ever found yourself putting off tasks until the last minute? By the way, most people who do that believe it sparks a creative side under pressure. But does it? Or is it just an excuse? Do you ever tell yourself that you’ll start that exercise program or project tomorrow? If so, you might be a procrastinator. Or, you might be a perfectionist. It’s tough to tell the difference, but once you know how to identify the signs, it’s easier to address the issue and get moving on your goals.

Signs You’re a Perfectionist

  1. You’re never satisfied with your work. However, this type of person is typically stuck in paralysis by analysis. They are so afraid it won’t be correct they wait to the point it’s too late.
  2. You’re afraid of making mistakes. This isn’t driven by other people’s opinions either. It’s way worse than that. This is a self-induced challenge that you will not live up to your own standards. (which by the way, are typically too difficult for anyone to achieve)
  3. You have trouble delegating tasks. You rationalize this by stating that it’s easier for you to do it correctly than risking someone else screwing it up. You believe it makes you organized, but others see you as a control freak.

Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism

  1. Set realistic standards for yourself. This is true for both sides of the coin. Figure out what’s possible and take action no matter how small. But if you don’t have clear expectations of what must be done, you’ll never move forward.
  2. Talk to someone who can help keep you accountable. This is really a two part strategy. Having an accountability partner is an incredibly important strategy because you lie to yourself too much. You can rationalize anything you like, but someone else who isn’t involved emotionally can realign your actions. But you must also have a penalty associated with NOT doing what you need to do. This is the reverse of procrastination because if you’re a perfectionist, you need clear expectations and deadlines. So don’t leave them up in the air.
  3. Celebrate your accomplishments—no matter how small! This is the most overlooked opportunity to eliminate procrastination or perfection syndrome. When you feel like you’re making progress it builds momentum. Too many times you discount what you’ve accomplished and makes you avoid the task even more. Even something as simple as acknowledging you began…that’s something. Who’s to say that’s not the best place to be at that moment?

You must understand that perfection doesn’t exist. However, your potential does. We all have flaws and you know this, but practice self-compassion. You’re the worst enemy you can face. Be kind to yourself and give some grace when things are perfect.

We are only on this planet a certain amount of time and today is one day closer to the end. I mention that not to be negative, but a positive push that perfection isn’t always the end all be all. It’s about marginal gains over time. But that time must start now. Today is the day to focus on what you can do versus what you should do and don’t.