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19 Dec

December 19, 2022February 1, 2023Brian Parsley Fear, Goals

Tips For Overcoming Fear And Achieving Goals

Fear is a natural emotion we all experience throughout our lives. Whether it’s fear of public speaking, fear of failure, or fear of being judged, it can be difficult to overcome. However, it’s important to remember that fear is nothing more than an obstacle to be overcome on the road to success. In fact, fear should be a sign of excitement versus panic.

Here are some tips for overcoming fear and achieving your goals.

1. Understand Your Fear

The first step to overcoming fear is to understand what it is that you’re afraid of. Once you unpack your fear, you can begin to address it and find ways to overcome it. But many times our fear is a shield for what’s underneath the surface. So really sit in the feeling when it arises. Ask yourself, “Why is this happening?” Really consider the reason for the fear. Is it real? Will you die? Or is it more emotionally driven?

2. Face Your Fear Head-On

Once you know what your fear is, it’s time to face it head-on. This may mean taking some time to do some research on your fear, separate the emotional piece and look at it from an outside perspective. The important thing is that you don’t let your fear control you; instead, you take control of your fear. You do that by not avoiding the potential pain. That’s all fear really is….your mind’s way of protecting you from physical harm. But you’re probably more concerned about your social standing and not surviving in the wild.

3. Take Small Steps

When facing your fear, it’s important to take small steps rather than try to tackle everything at once. For example, if you’re afraid of public speaking, start by speaking in front of someone you trust, such as a friend or family member. Then, gradually work your way up to larger groups. Toastmasters is a wonderful way to not just build skills, but create incredible confidence in sharing your thoughts to others. It’s in every city around the world and changed my life in a big way.

4. Persevere Through Setbacks

There will inevitably be setbacks along the way as you work to overcome your fears and achieve your goals. It’s important to persevere through these setbacks and not let them deter you from your ultimate goal. Remember that every setback is an opportunity to learn and grow so that you can eventually achieve success. After winter comes spring, but it’s a challenge to see through the cold dark nights at times. Everything will pass. Sometimes it’ll feel like a kidney stone, but it’ll pass.

Fear is a natural emotion and you don’t need to avoid it. We all experience it; however, it’s important to remember that fear is nothing more than a self produced obstacle to be overcome. Imagine next time you’re facing a fearsome task but are committed to achieving your goal, follow these tips and achieve success: understand your fear; face your fear head-on; take small steps; and persevere through setbacks.

You don’t need motivation. Just top of mind awareness and commitment. Remind yourself that whatever the fear is around you it’s worth the effort. It’s worth the risk to look foolish. Because regret is way more painful to live with than fear alone.

If you apply these strategies, you’ll overcome any obstacle and achieve anything you set your mind to!

Brian Parsley

As a co-founder of The Constance Group, I’m at the forefront of revolutionizing sales and leadership strategies worldwide. Our difference? The proprietary “Sales Funnel©” methodology—an innovative approach that significantly enhances selling processes, complemented by our programs in leadership, negotiation, and sales development.

Our distinct edge lies in our personalized approach. Prior to any keynote or workshop, I personally collaborate with stakeholders and attendees to develop a tailored, impactful program. This commitment goes beyond content delivery; it’s about crafting actionable insights that participants can immediately leverage for real-world impact.

Rooted in behavioral science, our strategies offer profound insights into human behavior, empowering your team to navigate complex scenarios with positive outcomes. Our sessions are designed to be engaging and memorable, mixing potent messages with humor and narratives that not only resonate but also inspire lasting change.

14 Dec

December 14, 2022December 14, 2022Brian Parsley Fear, Public Speaking

Overcoming the Fear of Public Speaking

Are you someone who gets nervous before giving a presentation at work? The good news is you’re not alone. In fact, public speaking is one of the most common fears people have. The great news is that there are things you can do to overcome your fear of public speaking and become a confident, successful presenter.

This is so incredibly important because it allows you to transfer your ideas and thoughts to others. When you think of “public speaking” you think of large crowds, but this could be as simple as a meeting with your peers. Either way people are going to respond based on your ability to share your information and how much you appear to believe what you’re talking about.

The first step to overcoming your fear of public speaking is to join Toastmasters.

Toastmasters is an organization that provides a supportive environment where you can practice your communication and leadership skills. When you join Toastmasters, you’ll be given the opportunity to give speeches, lead meetings, and conduct presentations—all in a safe, supportive setting. With regular practice, you’ll develop the skills and confidence you need to succeed as a leader and speaker.

Another great way to overcome your fear of public speaking is to find a mentor who can help you learn the ropes. A mentor can provide guidance, support, and advice as you work to develop your skills as a speaker and leader. If you don’t know anyone who would make a good mentor, reach out to your local Toastmasters club or look for mentors online.

There are plenty of resources available to help you find the perfect mentor for your needs. In fact, you would be shocked how many people who you look up to would love to help you, but you must ask. I remember asking my “to be” mentor whom I didn’t really know except from a networking meeting many years ago to mentor me. He was the CEO of a large financial institution in Charlotte, but he was more than willing to help. In fact, I recall him saying to me no one has asked that before.

In addition to finding a mentor, it’s also helpful to study the body language and styles of great speakers. This will give you some insights into how successful speakers carry themselves and how they use their words and gestures to engage their audiences. Watching videos of great speeches is a great way to learn more about effective public speaking techniques. You will never get better in a day. It’s a day by day commitment to grow in confidence. If you feel uncertain when challenging yourself, that’s a great thing. Preparation is the key to success.

At the end of the day, if you’re looking to overcome your fear of public speaking, there are plenty of resources available to help you—you just need to know where to look. The biggest issue most people have is the willingness to get uncomfortable. Get out there and express yourself! By taking these steps, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a confident, successful presenter in no time!

Brian Parsley

06 Dec

December 6, 2022December 6, 2022Brian Parsley Happiness

How to Find True Happiness

Most people believe happiness comes from having lots of money or possessions, but that’s not true. Sure, those things can make you happy for a little while, but it’s not long-term happiness. Long-term happiness comes from finding your purpose in life. What gets you excited to get out of bed in the morning? When you’re happy, you’re more likely to achieve your goals because happiness releases dopamine. That’s why chasing money is a never-ending cycle of emptiness. But if you discover your “why” in life, you’ll find fulfillment that doesn’t go away.

If you want to be truly happy, you need to find your “why”—the thing that drives you and gets you excited about life. When you have a sense of purpose, everything else falls into place. You’ll be more likely to stick with your goals because you’re driven by something bigger than yourself. And when you’re happier, you’ll be more productive because that dopamine I mentioned will give you a boost of energy and motivation.

But how do you find your why? Start by thinking about the things that make you happy. What are your passions? What makes you feel alive? These may not even have anything to do with your profession. That’s something people tend to forget. You don’t have to be a professional painter or singer.

Let’s say you love the outdoors. What about the outdoors? Why do you love it? How does it make you feel? What would be your dream outdoor experience? How doable is it today? If not, where can you start? You see, most people never try and unpack what would really make them happy. So how can you get somewhere when you don’t know where you’re going?

Once you have a good idea of what makes you happy, start brainstorming ways to turn those things into a career or a business venture too. Just because you’re in a totally different field doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

I have a friend Pieter Malan from South Africa. He was a Financial Advisor who was making loads of money, but unfulfilled. He loved making short videos and target shooting. So he began focusing on his passion and before he realized it, he’s doing it full-time on YouTube. He was able to leave his career to not just make more money, but live his dream.

If you can find a way to make money doing something you love, then you’ll never work another day in your life as they say. But even if you don’t make money in your passion, you’ll have more success than just a great paying career.

Finding true happiness is not about chasing money or possessions. Those things can make you happy for a little while, but they won’t last. True happiness comes from finding your purpose. Once you figure out that “why”, everything else will fall into place.

You’ll be more likely to achieve your goals and be more productive because happiness gives you a boost of energy and motivation. So don’t wait any longer—start finding your why today!

Brian Parsley