Connection is one of the most important things in life. It’s what makes us feel loved, supported, and understood. It’s what gives our lives meaning and purpose.
You must understand people either like people that are similar to them or like people they want to be like.
Research has shown that having strong social connections is essential for our physical and mental health. People who are connected to others are less likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, and other mental health problems. They are also more likely to live longer and healthier lives.
There are many different ways to connect with others. We can connect with them through our families, friends, romantic partners, and colleagues. We can also connect with them through shared interests, activities, and experiences.
One of the most effective ways to build rapport with others is to understand how we communicate nonverbally. It is estimated that 55% of communication is body language, and only 7% are the words we use. So, to build rapport, we must understand how to connect with people in a nonverbal way.
Here are a few tips for building instant rapport with others:
- Make eye contact (don’t be a creeper but always make effort to show interest)
- Nod your head (this acknowledges that what they’re saying is validated)
- Listen actively (listening to argue their point of view will slow down urges to talk)
- Ask open-ended questions (we call this “respond to redirect” in a curious way)
- Find common ground (we have more in common than you think…find it)
- Be authentic (when you’re you, that’s when magic happens)
By following these tips, you can start to build meaningful connections with others in your life.
5 Key Components of Building Instant Rapport
When we think about building rapport, we often focus on things like conversation skills and making a good first impression. While these are important factors, there are other key components that we should also consider.
Here are 5 key components of building instant rapport:
- Mutual interest and respect: When we interact with another person, we should show genuine interest in what they have to say. We should also be respectful of their time and opinions.
- Physical and emotional attunement: When we pay attention to another person’s body language and facial expressions, we can get a sense of how they are feeling. We can then use this information to respond in a way that is sensitive to their needs.
- Empathy and compassion: Being able to understand and share the feelings of another person is essential for building rapport. This requires being able to put ourselves in their shoes and see things from their perspective.
- Authenticity and trust: If we want people to trust us, we need to be genuine and authentic. This means being ourselves and not trying to be someone we’re not. It also means being honest and straightforward.
- Shared experiences and values: It is easier to make rapport with someone who has the same values as you. It also helps to have shared experiences to bond over.
Ultimately, building rapport is an art. It takes time, practice, and a genuine desire to connect with others. But the rewards are great. When we build strong relationships with others, we create a network of support that can help us through thick and thin.
Connection is what gives our lives meaning and purpose.
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