Unraveling the Mystery of Lost Motivation: The Power of Commitment

Have you ever found yourself at the beginning of a new job or project, overflowing with passion, brimming with ideas, and full of unwavering determination? Fast forward a few weeks or months and you find your enthusiasm dwindling, your commitment fading, and your motivation nearly extinct. Why is it that so many of us lose the initial momentum?

Why does that spark of motivation disappear?

The answer is simpler than you might think: It’s not the lack of motivation that’s the issue, but a lack of commitment. I know that’s not a popular answer because it’s easier to blame others or circumstances for your declining desire to continue at the same level of excitement in the beginning.

The Initial Euphoria

The beginning of any new venture, whether it’s a fitness program, a new job, or a creative project, is often marked by a surge of motivation. The novelty and excitement make it easy to dream, to set goals, and to visualize the path ahead. Everything feels within reach and your resolve seems unbreakable.

However, when reality hits and the initial thrill starts to wear off, the demands of your goal become apparent. It’s at this point that your motivation tends to falter. So, understand this is very normal to experience.

The Reality Check

Let’s consider an example. You’re excited about adopting a healthier lifestyle. You’ve purchased your new running shoes, signed up for the gym, and stocked your refrigerator with nutritious food. But a few weeks in, the early mornings, the sore muscles, and the sacrifice of your favorite foods start to weigh heavily on you. You’ve hit your first roadblock, and suddenly, your resolution seems harder than you anticipated. We’ve all been there at some point.

What’s happened here? You didn’t lose your motivation. Instead, you’ve encountered the stark reality of commitment. When things get difficult we tend to rationalize or justify the lack of motivation. Why? Because we must have a reason to blame for potentially falling short.

The Power of Commitment

While motivation is the driving force that gets you started, commitment is the glue that keeps you stuck to your path, even when the going gets tough. It involves making a promise to yourself that you’ll see things through, regardless of the obstacles.

Commitment means maintaining your workout schedule even when you’d rather hit the snooze button. Your feet hurt? Doesn’t matter. It’s about sticking to your diet plan when you’re tempted by unhealthy snacks. It means persisting with your business idea even when you face setbacks. It’s about staying true to your relationship, despite the inevitable disagreements and struggles. Every single person suffers from this affliction. You’re not unique in this so all you have to do is adopt simple strategies to ensure you don’t stay unmotivated.

If you find your motivation waning, it’s a signal that your commitment is faltering. You’re not just battling external challenges; you’re wrestling with your internal commitment to persevere.

Reigniting Your Commitment

So, how do you reignite your commitment when you feel it wavering?

Revisit Your ‘Why’: When the journey gets tough, remind yourself why you started. Your ‘why’ is the reason you’re willing to invest time, effort, and sometimes, even discomfort. I find even mapping out what could come up to question our motivation. That way when it does happen you can say to yourself, “I knew this was going to happen and I am committed not to accept the excuse.”

Make a Daily Promise: Commitment is not a one-time deal; it’s a daily promise you make to yourself. You never get better in a day. It’s day by day. That means it’s committing to yourself and your word. It’s not about convenience or mood; it’s about unwavering resolve. Each day, commit to taking a step forward, however small, towards your goal.

Embrace the Struggle: Realize that struggles are not setbacks; they’re the milestones of your journey. They’re the test of your commitment. Isn’t that an interesting perspective? Each struggle you overcome strengthens your resolve and takes you one step closer to your goal.

If you’re feeling stuck, remember that growth is a constant of ups and downs. It’s not about swift progress, but consistent effort. It’s about not just dreaming big, but also committing to the hard work that brings those dreams to life.

Motivation is very temporary. So, as you embark on your journey of personal or professional growth, ask yourself: Are you merely motivated or are you truly committed?

No Easy Road: The Challenge of Personal Growth

There’s a truth in life we often shrink from: the journey to personal growth and self-discovery is never without its challenges. This arduous path demands sacrifice, resilience, and courage to step beyond our comfort zones. I want to provoke thought and challenge you to confront your fears and reclaim your power. Let’s look at four key points, each supplemented with actionable steps and a deep-dive into their transformative potential.

1. Embrace the Difficulty:

Growth happens when you push yourself beyond your comfort zone. This isn’t something you’ve never heard before, but rarely do we do it. In fact, our core survival instincts want us to avoid “pain”. Think about your relationships. When you avoid confronting an issue because it’s ‘easier’, you miss the chance to grow. Honestly, it’s not comfortable to confront anything.

Action: This week, tackle a challenging conversation you’ve been avoiding with a friend, partner, or family member. It’ll be difficult, but navigating this discomfort will equip you with enhanced communication skills, deepening your relationships, and teaching you the art of conflict resolution. The secret I’ve uncovered is to see the conversation from their perspective. When you change your focus from you (your agenda) and shift that bias to how the other person may see the points, it’s life changing.

2. Sacrifice and Resilience:

Progress calls for sacrifice and resilience. For instance, you might need to trade hours of mindless social media scrolling for self-improvement activities like reading, learning a new skill, or meditating. But you have to understand that there’s a reason you find yourself lost in TikTok or Instagram. It’s not because you want to waste time. You’re rewarding yourself with hits of dopamine. There’s another benefit and that is because it’s a distraction from the difficult conversations or situations you deal with each day. By the way, this is a symptom from the first point above.

Action: So what can you do? Identify one thing you can sacrifice this week that brings you closer to your personal growth goal. As you consciously choose personal development over momentary pleasure, you build self-discipline, a trait that’s instrumental in achieving any life goal. It doesn’t even have to be big. Find something you enjoy (that’s not healthy) and stop doing it for a specific time period. This will teach you discipline and build confidence at the same time.

3. Step Outside the Norm:

To attain extraordinary results, you have to dare to be different. In your professional life, this could mean voicing a unique idea in a meeting, even if it might raise eyebrows. We tend to go through life trying not to “rock the boat”. The goal isn’t to create challenges, rather challenge the status quo. It’s okay to get a little uncomfortable to push the norms or standards that are in place to keep most people comfortable.

Action: This week, share an out-of-the-box idea at work. Facing possible critique will build your courage, and the act of sharing your unique ideas fosters self-confidence and positions you as an innovative thinker.

4. Leave a Mark:

Living a memorable life doesn’t always require grand actions. Small, heartfelt deeds can create deep impacts. Be kind to strangers, provide mentorship, or contribute to your community. I have found the smallest kind gestures go farther than overt contributions. If you find yourself focusing on “how can I make this person’s day better?” you’ll see amazing shifts in your own personal fulfillment.

Action: Perform a random act of kindness without expecting anything in return this week. This simple gesture not only brightens someone’s day but also nurtures your own sense of empathy and compassion, leading to a richer, more connected life.

The journey to personal growth, filled with challenges and uncomfortable moments, is less a battle against external obstacles and more a duel with our own inhibitions.

Remember: your growth isn’t measured by how smooth the journey is, but by the courage you demonstrate when faced with adversity, the sacrifices you make for your growth, and the legacy of kindness and strength you dare to leave behind. This journey isn’t about how the world perceives you; it’s about you stepping into your power. Embrace the challenge, for you’re stronger than you believe.

Feedback: The Growth Engine You’ve Been Overlooking

Most of us have a complex relationship with feedback. We can’t deny that it’s necessary, but it’s also uncomfortable, isn’t it? However, I am here to tell you that feedback – even the kind that makes you squirm – can be one of the most significant tools to fuel personal growth and self-improvement. It’s time we shift your perspective from viewing feedback as negative criticism to seeing it as an opportunity for growth. Here’s why.

Point 1: Feedback As A Mirror

To begin with, feedback serves as a mirror, reflecting your strengths and weaknesses. It’s like that honest friend who’s not afraid to tell you when you have spinach stuck in your teeth. Remember when you gave your first presentation and felt like you did a pretty good job until a colleague mentioned that you were speaking too fast? That was feedback. It stung, but it also opened your eyes to an area for improvement. The result? You practiced, slowed down your speech, and nailed your next presentation.

Point 2: Feedback Spurs Growth

Secondly, feedback is the fuel that fires your personal and professional growth engines. It pushes us out of your comfort zones, encouraging you to reach new heights. Consider the story of an aspiring writer who received a string of rejection letters. Each one contained feedback, comments about character development, plot progression, etc. Instead of giving up, the writer took those comments to heart and worked on his craft. Today, he’s a bestselling author. His growth came from embracing the feedback, not from shunning it.

Point 3: Feedback Builds Relationships

Finally, feedback plays an instrumental role in strengthening relationships. How? Well, it promotes open dialogue and trust. When we express your thoughts and feelings, it shows that we value the other person’s perspective and are willing to make adjustments. It’s the mutual exchange of feedback that deepens your connections. Remember that time your friend mentioned how you were always late for meetups? It was uncomfortable, yes. But in acknowledging and addressing this, you showed respect for your friend’s time, which only strengthened your bond.

Now, I get it – not all feedback is useful, and it’s essential to consider the source. Some people might give feedback based on personal biases rather than objective assessment. Some people also say things that may be more of an insult or bullying. But then again, it might be true too. That’s where discernment comes into play. Learn to filter the gold from the grit.

I’ll leave you with this: feedback is not the enemy; it’s a tool, an ally, and a catalyst for growth. So, the next time you receive feedback, take a moment, breathe, and look beyond the initial discomfort. You might just find a roadmap to becoming a better version of yourself.

Embrace feedback. Let it stir you, shake you, and ultimately make you the best that you can be. After all, isn’t that what we’re all striving for? Remember, life is a continual learning process, and feedback is one of your greatest teachers.

What Sets You Apart: Celebrating Your Distinctiveness

Navigating our way in a world that often values conformity, we sometimes lose sight of our individuality. We’ve all fallen into the trap of comparison at one point or another, gauging our worth against others’ achievements. But in doing so, we’re playing a losing game. Here’s the truth: you’re not designed to fit a mold. You’re designed to shatter it. What makes you unique? Let’s dive into three core factors.

1. Your Unique Experiences:

Your experiences – in business, relationships, or personal endeavors – are your fingerprints in the world. They’re distinctly yours, setting you apart from the crowd. It may not feel that way sometimes (and that’s normal), but you are unique. Look at the journey you’ve taken so far in life. One step to the left could’ve changed your life. Imagine if you decided to move to a different city than you envisioned? What if you didn’t meet your partner and built a different relationship? My point is, never underestimate the power of your uniqueness you bring.

Take Steve Jobs, for example. His unique journey of co-founding Apple, being ousted from it, starting another company (NeXT), and eventually returning to Apple to lead it to unprecedented heights, set him apart. His unique experiences, both triumphs, and failures, became his defining features in the business world.

In a relationship context, consider a couple who met, not in their teens, but in their late 70s at a community center. Their shared experience of finding love at an unexpected age and place was unique to them, a defining feature of their relationship that stood out from typical narratives.

2. Your Challenges:

The challenges you face – and how you tackle them – distinguish you significantly. The resilience, creativity, and tenacity you show when dealing with obstacles are testaments to your individuality. We all struggle with believing our issues are unique to just us or others don’t relate. Reality says something different and we can model after others who have pushed through their challenges.

Consider SpaceX’s early days. Elon Musk’s company faced three failed launches before finally achieving orbit with the fourth. The repeated failures didn’t discourage him. Instead, these challenges helped define SpaceX’s unique trajectory in the aerospace industry.

On a personal relationship level, imagine a family dealing with the challenges of long-distance relationships due to job commitments. Despite the difficulty, they found unique ways to maintain their bond – regular family video calls, shared online experiences, simultaneous movie nights – their response to the challenge set them apart from other families.

3. Your Pain:

Pain and hardship, while tough to endure, contribute significantly to your uniqueness. They deepen your perspective, instill resilience, and become a part of your personal narrative. My wife told me it’s a lot like a kidney stone. It’s painful, but it too will eventually pass. So will our pain and it’s really not about the pain anyway. It’s about the meaning you associate with it directly. Change the story and you change the narrative that goes along with it.

Take a look at Jack Ma, founder of Alibaba. Rejected from multiple jobs, including KFC, he faced numerous obstacles and failures before eventually finding success. His journey, punctuated by painful rejections and failures, set him apart and shaped Alibaba’s unique corporate ethos.

In terms of relationships, consider a couple who lost their child. Their shared pain and grief undoubtedly set them apart, but so did their healing process. They turned their heartache into action, setting up a charitable foundation in their child’s name, channeling their pain into something meaningful, a unique response that not only set them apart but also benefited others.

So, when you find yourself succumbing to the comparison game, remember: your unique experiences, the challenges you’ve faced, and even the pain you’ve endured – these are your distinctive attributes. They make you who you are, setting you apart in business, relationships, and life.

Your journey won’t align with everyone’s expectations or standards, and that’s okay. What matters is that you stay true to yourself, listening to the internal voice that champions growth and authenticity.

You’re not here to fit in – you’re here to stand out, break molds, and celebrate your uniqueness. So, keep being you. Keep being different. And remember, the world needs your unique imprint.